I really want to do ballet?

I'm 11.


And in my socks, I had secretly done ballet in my room since age 4. Just last night, I cried myself to sleep. I asked my mom if I could do ballet lessons, because I know I'm pretty good. I stretch for an hour a day. My best friend gave me her ballet shoes. So I use those now, but I love ballet, how can I get my mom to support me, on what I love to do?

I really want to do ballet?
aww i think that its great that you love ballet that much! If you really want to get better and take lessons then no one should stop you. Have you even told you mom your mom yet that your interested? If you haven't then i see no reason why she wouldn't support you, so just explain to her how much you would love to do ballet. If you've already asked and she said no for some reason, then ask her why she would have a problem with it, if ballet is really your passion and you will work hard at it. Try and convince her to let you do it, and dont let anyone get in the way of your dreams. its kinda hard to answer this question because i don't know the exact circumstance but i hope i helped. email me if you have any questions about ballet and if you tell me what your mom said im sure i could help more. good luck!


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Reply:you need to tell your mom that taking ballet would be very important to you and that it is what you really want to do. let her know how much you love ballet. if money is part of the issue tell your mom that if she pays for classes you will pay for dancewear.





hope this helps!
Reply:you have to find a way to tell her how important this is to you. you can try to make a deal with her...try a few drop-in classes at a studio near you, and then have a meeting with the teacher and your mom, so they can discuss it together. dance teachers are usually pretty good at convincing parents to let their children dance. my teacher personally calls all of the parents who want their children to stop dancing but the child wants to continue. and if that doesnt work, she'll have a meeting with the parents and the child. she does everything she can to convince the parents
Reply:Research shows that ballet is the sport that requires the most balance and stamina. It really helps flexibility. Ballet is a very fantastic thing to learn. I have taken ballet for twelve years, and I have made some good friends and learned a whole lot in that amount of time. You also learn some french terms along the way. As long as you are dedicated and hard working, which it seems like you would be, it would be a great skill to learn. Tell your mom how much you really want to do it. Do some research online about the positive attributes of ballet and all the good things it can do for you, and show them to your mom. If she doesn't support you in doing what you really want to do even after all of that, I don't know what you should do. It can get relatively expensive depending on where you take dance, but it is really worth it. It teaches you so much and helps you along greatly in life. It helps your memory, and looks really good on resumes and things if you stick to it for a long time. Just tell your mom how much you really want to do it. Offer to help out around the house extra or something like that to help pay for your lessons. It really is worth it in the long run.
Reply:Talk to your mom about this. It's the only way that you will beable to get her to even remotely understand you. Don't yell, cry, scream etc but try to speak with her calmly so that she knows you are very serious about this.





Make sure your prepared to speak with her. Maybe you could even research some studios near you so that your mom won't have to do it. If your friend dances then maybe see if your friends parents could speak to your mom and let her know a few things about how she would get you involved in dance classes.





Try to work out some sort of a compromise if you really want this. For example: if she allows you to dance then you will do x amount of chores each day without fuss. Or you will atleast B's in school or something like that.





Above all, just speak with your mom calmly when you can. Talk to her about this more then once and then allow her some time to think it through, but don't badger her about this parents tend to get annoyed when you ask constantly ;).





Good luck and I really hope things work out! Until you work things out see if your friend can help teach you some things.
Reply:I'm definately confused by this question. WHY doesn't your mom want you to take ballet?





Additionally, I hope you are not using the kind of ballet shoes that you can stand on your toes in because without a teacher teaching you what you are doing with your muscles you can get hurt really bad. I mean this, you don't want that kind of damage to your legs because it could be permanent.





Getting to your question tho, you first need to ask her why she won't let you. Then maybe you should show her what you can do and let her know that you are serious about it. She might think that you will just take a few classes because you are interested but if she doesn't know you are serious she could think that you will try some classes and drop out. That would be a waste of money, because the shoes and tights and leotards and everything, plus the cost of each class and the sign up fee is all together pretty expensive. So if that is what she is worried about then you need to show her you are serious and that you really want it.


If you get an allowance for example, tell her you are serious enough about it to put your allowance towards your tuition. She may work out a deal with you.
Reply:maybe offer to pay for the classes or talk to her and let her know how important it is to you. Maybe you can see if you can help in another class to earn money.
Reply:if you are really good and you have been doing ballet since age 4 in your room, and are great at the splits and everything, put on a show for her. get some classical music and show her your skills. obviously if talking hasnt been working then express to her your hard work and desire through dance. it's what you love, isn't it?
Reply:You should show her what you can do. If you are really as good as you say she should see your talent and definetly start you up. I hope she says you are great and start your classes. Keep up the good work!!!
Reply:I think that the best way to show your mother that your good and passionate about something is by showing her. That way when you show her how good you are and interested she can't say no. Unless it's a finical problem, then you'll have to find another way to practice what you love. But always remember never to give up.
Reply:Because I do not know the full extent of your situation it is hard to answer this question. However I suggest talking to your mother about it. Sit down CALMLY, and discuss with her why ballet means so much to you. It has been my own experience that if you do this in a mature manner (no fighting or raising your voice) you will be heard. Then if she still says no, nicely ask her why. There might be some issues in your family life that you don't know about. Remember to keep your cool. Also remember that it is never too late to start on your dreams. So if you don't get to do ballet now, there are plenty of chances to start. One of my past ballet instructors started her learning experience at the age of 20. If you are unable to start your experience now, there are other options that will help introduce yourself into the world of dance. Try volunteering at one of your local dance companies. I had done this quite a few times. They always need help, especially around show time with painting sets. Later I acted as a room mom and helped with quick changes and makeup.
Reply:show your mom what you can do. if it is finantial problems then ask the dance teacher if you could help her during classes in exchange for free or cheaper lessons.



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