What makes a blessed marriage that can last 50 years?

Hi dear all! I'm going to get married soon. THRILLED! Yet I think there is a lot more to be prepared mentally for married life. It's more practical, mixed with chores and triffles, probably not as romantic as before.


What's in your idea is the most important to make a blessed marriage? Somebody says to put yourself into other's shoes. Any other tips? I really wanna celebrate our golden marriage with the same person I married 50 years ago!Thx!

What makes a blessed marriage that can last 50 years?
Communication, commmitment, devotion, adoration, trust, compromise, marrying the right person.
Reply:That's a wonderful goal! I think you're on the right track already. I think too many people rush into marriage without seeing that far into the future. You're right, the romance and excitement does seem to evaporate after those first few years of marriage, but if you really love your spouse you keep working at it. There's nothing more valuable than trust in your relationship. If you trust each other and always know the truth doesn't have to be sought after, then that is a firm foundation to build years and years of marriage on. Respect and communication are important too, but they are products of trust. If there's trust, then those others fall into place. Finally, LAUGHTER. If you can make each other laugh all the time, then you've definitely got something. My husband of 10 years can make me laugh so hard I have to collapse on the floor!





If and when children come into the picture, that's a test of your marriage. Don't turn on each other in those extremely stressful times when a newborn is crying and you're at the end of your rope. Remember you made the baby as a team, you're still a team raising it.
Reply:A Better Relationship Starts with A Better You





I would be very happy to answer this question for you. You see for over a decade now I have served couples who sought the same advice you have. What makes a great relationship is what is the best in you coming out. What makes a bad relationship is what is best in you being locked up.


I have found in teaching couples over the last decade around the country that most people bring more problems to love than they could ever generate in love. You will be fine if you can just remember that, "all change occurs within and not without." That means that the only person that we can hope to fix or change in a marriage is ourselves.





Sincerely,


Charles Rivers


National Relationship Author
Reply:1) Put Jesus first in your relationship. Sounds funny, but it works


2) Never go to bed angry with one another.





3) Each Day is a new beginning, love each other as never before.





4) There is no such animal as a 50/50 marriage. Both partners need to be willing to give 110 % to make this marriage work.





5) Remember two things about love: 1- it is a verb, this means it it an action to be shown always everyday, and 2- it is a choice you need to amke even when things get rough, and they will, don't givwe up, choose love.





I have been married now for 28 years. My wife and I are both 47 years old and strive to live by these principals. We love to hold hands while we walk. We love to just hold each other at night, physical intimacy does not always mean sex.
Reply:There are really no answer to this. But not being to young when you marry helps. A good sense of humor-be able to laugh at yourself. Always treat each other as the most important person in your life. And be able to trust your mate with your life. If there is a hint of doubt DON'T DO IT!
Reply:My grandma say that there are two important things you have to do if you want your marriage to succed: shut up and forgive.
Reply:Ear Plugs, Rope, Duct Tape, The usual itmes to shut her up...


Good Luck!
Reply:Stick with each ohter thru thick and thin.
Reply:being able to laugh, never jealous, and choose your battles wisely.
Reply:a lot of thingz like understanding ,respect and love
Reply:well congratulations, i recently got married myself in feb of this year. all the best. I know how you feel wanting to celebrate the golden 50 years.


well for a marriage to work, and both persons to stay together, its going to take alot of compramise from both. both have to make it work cause marriage is work.


communication is the key. talk about everything and anything that you see necessary no matter how silly it may seem. be open and honest.


honesty is another big issue, it leads to trust which can make you miserable if you dont have.


understanding is a must. you must realize that both of you are two separate individuals merging together as one. both of you have ways that will annoy each other. you will find out. my mom told me before i got maried that she and my dad sat and had an honest conversation in the beginning of their marriage and they put on paper things they disliked and both tried to avoid doing things the other didnt like. my husband and i did and you can try it too. it works.


get to know each other and try to understand each other. empathize. put each other first and try to live for each other.


make sure you make time for and with each other. after marriage, many couples complain about things not being the same as in the courtship years. that is because of life. after a marriage we continue with life, but we must not make the mistake others made of ignoring our marital relationship. no matter what dedicate special moments together, its a part of getting to know each other better.


with chores, help each other out and be fair. share responsibilities and remain faithful to them. if both of you work, the first one to get home can start the dinner and things like that. just try to work together.


Last but not least, the first thing to do is to put God first. God is all for marriages and for them lasting untill death's partation. i always viewed it this way, like a triangle. God is at the top, the husband at one side of the bottom line and the wife at the other side. the two side lines that joins at the top are representing our relationship with God. through our relationship, He can pour into us all that we need to be to each other. if there is a separation on any part of the triangle, that flow is interupted and the marriage wont be the same.


i hope i helped you.


I wish you all the best in your new life to come.



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